Good friends

If you look around you and see that the sea is calm then you still have time. You need to take stock of your life and see if you have some truly deep friendships. If you don’t, then you still have time. Work on building them.

One thing I’ve learned over the last month is that I have not taken the time to cultivate truly deep friendships. Do I have friends? Sure. But I’m talking about a friendship where all is known. They know all your issues and you know theirs. I have honestly never done that. There is no one in my life who I feel I can freely and completely open up to. And that is not a failing of the people around me, it is my own. I have been lazy about it. I have not trusted people with my faults. When I feel responsible to someone, I have trouble opening up. And I can’t really think of anyone in my life I don’t feel responsible to in some way. I never placed as much importance on deep friendships as I should have.

Suffering has a way of uncovering issues that need to be worked on. The storm reveals the weak points in the hull. I’ve found quite a few I’m working through.


  1. Lex says

    Great reminder. I know the feeling.

    Mine is born from being in ministry, and you just can’t confide in many people. And from working with teenagers, which means being surrounded by them and their problems most of the time. But still – there has to be one or two …

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